Updated: Nov 24, 2019
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If you want to make improvements and change your patterns, try paying close attention to what you are doing and how you are doing it. An excellent way to become more self-aware is to ask yourself questions as you move through your day. Asking yourself powerful questions will create actionable insights.
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The four questions Example: Paul lied to me. 1. Is it true? (Yes or no. If no, move to question 3.) 2. Can you absolutely know that it’s true? (Yes or no.) 3. How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought? 4. Who or what would you be without the thought?
One day, as I was preparing for a family dinner, I got a box of brownie mix from the pantry, grabbed the mixing bowl from the cabinet and the eggs from the refrigerator. I poured the mix into the bowl, cracked the eggs, added the water and began to stir. This was during a time where I had made a commitment to myself to lose a few more pounds and I was serious about it! I had carefully planned my meals ahead of time to avoid grabbing the ‘wrong’ foods when I was hungry and had made the decision that I would have one brownie for dessert with the rest of my family that night.
Yet as I poured the batter into the pan, I tasted the brownie mix and had every intention of sampling the brownies when they came out of the oven. After all, I needed to make sure they tasted good. That’s when I caught myself repeating a habit and pattern that has been well practiced for most of my life.
I thought, “I need to make sure they taste good.” But is it true? Do I need to make sure they taste good? What appeals to me about this? The taste of the batter or warm brownie? Will I enjoy the brownie more with the family for dessert, rather than on my own while preparing them? When I believe that thought, I risk breaking a commitment to myself to only enjoy one brownie that day – for dessert – not before. Without the thought, “I need to make sure they taste good,” I was free to stick to my original plan.
After a brief inquiry, I was able to decide that NO, I do not need to make sure they taste good and that I would enjoy the brownie more with my family. That small change and shift in thought, allowed me to begin creating a new habit and pattern. I was able to keep the commitment to myself and achieve my greater goal in the process. Action toward my goal of losing a few pounds was exactly what I really wanted.
Action is what you are really after too, right?
Below are a list of powerful questions to incorporate as you are going about your business in twelve categories and in color that relate to the LIFE monthly coaching packets available in the Shop. There is no right or wrong way to ask yourself. Like with most everything, just do it.
If you aren’t in the habit of asking these types of questions, try to do it when you experience the following. Check off each time you do, before you know it, you’ll have changed a pattern and created a positive habit.
When should you ask these questions. When you are:
Making a doctor’s appointment
Cleaning up a spill
Eating your breakfast
Waiting for your friend
Waiting in line
Having the flu
Taking a shower
Brushing your teeth
Sending an email
Watching a show
Taking a walk
Cleaning the kitchen
Reading an article
Making a phone call
Planning something fun
What does this remind me of?
What has stopped me before?
What do I avoid?
What appeals to me about this?
How does this feel?
Where do I feel it in my body?
What do I want from this experience?
What am I doing with my body right now?
What is my facial expression?
What is my go-to behavior for relaxation?
Have I blamed others for a situation recently?
What has brought me fulfillment today?
What distinguishes me?
What are some of my daily habits?
Am I clear in my communication?
What do I expect of myself?
What assumptions have I made recently?
What do I feel in my torso?
Is what I’m thinking true?
How do I feel when I believe this to be true?
When did I behave this way before?
When did I feel most peaceful this past month?
If this situation had a voice, what would it say to me?
What is my role in this?
What are my beliefs about money?
What does financial security or investing mean to me?
What are my barriers to progress?
How does my body react when I think about finances?
What do I enjoy about money?
How do I talk about finances?
What is faith?
How do I define my religious or spiritual background?
What are my beliefs?
Am I comfortable with this topic?
What do I know to be true?
What are unknowns?
What memory did this create?
At what point in a process do I tend to lose steam?
Are there certain types of activities or places that repel me?
What am I drawn to?
Can you identify 3 emotions you feel right now?
Are my facial muscles relaxed?
How do I tend to spend my time?
How do I wish I spent my time?
Do I have the same expectations of myself as I do others?
What patterns am I repeating?
Are there area of my body that are holding tension?
What is most important to me in this moment?
What do I convey about myself to the world?
How do I feel physically in this moment?